7 Ways You Can Love Your Husband Today

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7 Ways You Can Love Your Husband Today

My husband and I struggled severely for many years.  We both faced hurt, rejection, lonliness and a “loveless marriage.”  My hurt was so deep, I was absolutely blind to the depths of my own failures as a wife, but praise God, his light sparked in the darkness of my heart which began the journey to healing and wholeness.  

Friend, there is an enemy prowling around your house hoping to destroy your marriage. And it's not your husband! Satan wants nothing more than to deceive us into believing that love is lost, our marriage is hopeless and that there must be someone better out there.  While I once saw myself as a victim of a broken marriage, I now see myself as a warrior fighting against Satan’s attacks to destroy God’s beautiful plan for marriage.  TRUTH will set us free from the bondage of Satan’s lies.  We find truth ONLY in God’s precious Word, so let’s start with the definition of love, according to God.

First Corinthians 13 defines it this way, “Love is patient, love is kind.  It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrong.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love NEVER fails.

At one point in our marriage, my husband and I faced the reality that we were in a loveless marriage.  A pastor suggested we take this scripture and self-evaluate. Self. Evaluate. No pointing fingers! How well was I loving my husband? God opened my eyes wide as I discovered my love for Craig was NONE of those things. Craig and I both allowed our feelings to control us, instead of the other way around. God taught me a marriage-changing truth about love.  Love is not a feeling.  Love is a choice. 

Friend, will you choose to love your husband today?

Here are 7 Ways You Can Choose To Love Your Husband Today:

1. Even if it makes your skin crawl, choose to be patient and kind to your husband.

2. Choose to humble yourself; apologize and admit your wrong.

3. Choose not to be rude. That means you might need to bite your tongue. Don't roll your eyes, either! Biting your tongue may make your tongue bleed, but on the bright side, your eyes will feel better from not rolling them back in your head!

4. Choose to not be easily angered or offended. Forgive his wrongs.

5. Choose to delight in God's promises and protect the relationship that has been entrusted to you.

6. Trust in your BIG God. Plan for victory.

7. Keep your eyes fixed on the beauty God planned for your marriage. Press on!

Sweet friend, whether you’re in a healthy marriage or a struggling one, each of us can choose to love our spouse better.  One day at a time, you have the power, with God’s help, to choose love.  I promise you, it is ALWAYS worth it.  Comment below and tell me one way you chose to love your husband today. I want to celebrate with you!

Tomorrow I will share our first Prayer Point and Scripture Prayer. If you commit to it, your heart will be transformed, so stay with me!

This post is part of a blog series hosted by Anna Frye, founder of Chosen And Crowned Ministries. Anna's heart is to raise up a growing army of women (#WifeArmy15) who courageously pray scripture over their marriages and expect mind-blowing results. This series runs from Oct. 19-Nov. 13. Join the Wife Army and invite your friends at www.ChosenAndCrowned.com/blog.